Relationship affecting friendship

       Many times when you get into a relationship sometimes you put aside your friends and focus on that one special person. This is great and normal; however, should the relationship die off and your back to being single again what then? If you should run back to your friends well, they just might not be there waiting for you. This is because you pushed aside all the people that actually cared for you and that have always been there for you. Sometimes you get so caught up in the person your with that you don’t realize how much harm you create should the relationship not last. You need to learn to balance both and try to give space and time to both your relationship and your friends. At this stage in your life friends are an important source of balance and having a relationship is a part of life but you must learn a sense of adaption between the two. At this point in your life putting aside your friends for a relationship is not all that smart, because these relationships usually last a short period of time and you need to know your friends would be there should you need them.

Teenage Maturity

Teens between the ages of thirteen to fifteen don’t have the maturity to carry on a serious and lengthy relationship. Their relationships might last perhaps one month at most; and even going thru the experience of this relationship they may never know the true meanings of the importance each of their short time partners really mean to each other. This analogy applies to each gender equally; but most frequently known to occur to a higher percentage in boys. In other words, the short span relationships are a start of their learning process which allows them to lean about temperamental tolerance towards each other. But one thing is certain and proven that girls mature faster than boys which is why boys usually lead the relationship to an end much quicker than girls. This consequently occurs because of the maturity level of the girls in a relationship they tend to want more commitments and lengthier relationships and boys tend to bore themselves with one girl for too long. Boys tend to have little patients and lack a lot of responsibility in these so called short relationships. The lack of immaturity in teenager’s relationships tends to also lead to unfaithful commitments, such as cheating, insecurities and lies.   

TEEN LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS

Have you ever heard your parents say, “You are too young to love, too young to get heart and to young to involve yourselves in a relationship?” Well, doesn’t history repeat itself? Were they not there as we are now? The answer is, “Yes,” you could call it what you like, or phrase it how you feel, no matter what age you find your heart at the moment your life begins to struggle thru these  fails or conquests, it’s all the same. This is the base of how our emotions develop in love and prepare us for our future emotional struggles. We could say that these step by step challenges are just like a baby taking its first steps, its first words and how a baby learns to trust the ones they love. Young love and relationships among our opposite genders are more alike than what you think.

Our opposite genders boy's or girls, go through the same situations when it comes down to relationships and love; but one can’t even imagine that this could even be true.  This is because each of our opposite genders internally experiences something inside that the other can’t see, but quite frankly it’s because we are so afraid to express our emotions out loud and trap ourselves on what the other might say. We go through the struggle of how our opposites feel like the boy/girl, imagining if he or she likes them or not. We sometimes over think through our emotions for too long and struggle through battles within ourselves which we can’t explain; we presume it might be to build character. Then when we look back with a straight mind and realize that we could have learned what we both had felt by just talking. When this happens things turn out way different than what we imagined and wanted; creating frustrations, sorry and disappointments. Many of these situations occur throughout our teenage years, because we refrain from self-expression and lack confidence. For example, when a guy likes a girl and he knows that the girl likes him he sits and waits for the girl to text him and on the other side the girl is doing exactly the same thing. The best approach for this is just to say something when you see the person face to face. If the boy is shy hint that it would be nice if he would text you or give the boy a little confidence to push for that first move.